Few years back I was interviewing a candidate for an open position in my company that time. Surprisingly, all his answers to my questions were starting with a ‘because’!
Q. Why are you planning to leave your previous organization?
A. Because… (quite reasonable)
Q. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
A. Because… (hmm… interesting!)
Q. How many years of experience do you have?
A. Because… (are you kidding me?)
It freaked me out! I rejected him because of his poor communication skills.
But after a few years, I suddenly remembered the interview and got curious about the possible reasons why that guy was starting every answer with a ‘because’. And the only possible explanation I could think of was, there was a ‘why’ question constantly getting played in his head. He was assuming that I would ask him ‘why’ over his simple and straightforward answers, so he was just trying to be proactive about answering both the questions in one go.
I realize now that sometimes these ‘why’ questions help us avoiding distractions from the navigation to our own destinations. A few days back, when I was extremely provoked to buy an attractive and expensive shoe, the question suddenly popped up in my mind, “Why do I need another shoe?” And it worked! The ‘because’ was not that strong and convincing to myself. The shoe was successful to mask my other financial priorities that time. I was able to walk away from that shoe eventually.
I will be thankful to the guy I interviewed for the rest of my life. He taught me the strength of ‘because’.
Abhimanyu Gupta lives in Chesterfield, Missouri with his wife Nilanjana & son Anusurya. His profession is software testing and his passion are music and books. He can be reached via Email, LinkedIn or Facebook.