My eleven year old is a student of violin. His teacher occasionally arranges recitals where all her students come and play in front of an audience, usually the family members of other students. What a great way to motivate the students and help them gain confidence!
I never missed any of his recitals. Every time I patiently wait for his turn. But when his turn comes, something else happens. Every time.
Someone (I don’t want to disclose the identity!) hands over the video camera to me and asks me to record his performance.
I hate this part. I miss all the fun because my attention completely goes towards recording. Later, when I hear that one of our neighbors passionately listened my son’s piece and appreciated him, I feel bad because I focused too much on keeping a digital memory rather than enjoying the present moment and making emotional connections.
Taking rigorous notes in meetings is very similar. We focus so much on the future that we miss the opportunity to have human connections and to understand each other’s perspectives.
I don’t take notes in meetings anymore. I try to be part of the conversations.
Abhimanyu Gupta lives in Chesterfield, Missouri with his wife Nilanjana & son Anusurya. His profession is software testing and his passion are music and books. He can be reached via Email, LinkedIn or Facebook.