How many times do you encounter statements like, "I feel so irritated and not in a mood now", "that guy turned off my mood"? I’m sure, many times. I was really struggling for a long time to understand what is mood and whether we can control it.
When I consulted a dictionary, I found that mood is a temporary state of mind or feeling. But it didn’t say anything about whether we can control our moods, and if we can, how.
I started looking at the books available in the Psychology section and found a useful one written by Richard Carlson. I read it and noted down the following points:
1. Thinking is a voluntary process.
2. The extent of realization of the above is called mood.
And then it took a few months for me to digest the two points. As you all know, I am a slow learner. But when I was able to digest it eventually, I started practicing it and I slowing started seeing the result.
I learned that it is not an event that makes us sad, angry or scared, it is what we think about the event that makes us that way.
So now, whenever a young lady tailgates me, I slow down even more. I just assume that she really wants to say Hi to me.
Abhimanyu Gupta lives in Chesterfield, Missouri with his wife Nilanjana & son Anusurya. His profession is software testing and his passion are music and books. He can be reached via Email, LinkedIn or Facebook.